Once Gavin started showing promise, or what my parents interpreted as promise, the house itself changed. The dinner table turned into a strategy board. The garage became a warehouse for bats, catchers’ gear, folding chairs, coolers, sunscreen, turf shoes, duffel bags, and enough sports drink to hydrate a small militia. Weekends disappeared into tournament brackets. Weeknights were for practice, private lessons, conditioning, or “just a few extra reps.” Summer vacation meant hotel pools in anonymous towns and long days at baseball complexes where every field looked exactly the same except for the arrangement of parents in collapsible chairs pretending their children’s adolescent achievements were objective proof of destiny.
At first I tried to participate in the family enthusiasm because children also learn quickly that admiration can function like a survival skill. I memorized Gavin’s batting average. I learned what an ERA was. I listened when my father dissected the angle of Gavin’s elbow during a throw, even though I cared about as much as I would have cared about grain prices in ancient Mesopotamia. I clapped when everyone else clapped. I sat through endless post-game recaps. I wore the team shirts my mother ordered in bulk for “supportive family members,” though she never remembered to buy one in my size and I usually ended up drowning in Gavin’s castoffs.
But every year when July came, I still let a tiny part of myself believe that this time might be different.
One year, when I was eleven, I asked for a cake before we left for a tournament in Indiana. It seemed like a reasonable compromise. We didn’t have to throw a party. We didn’t even have to invite anyone. We could light candles in the kitchen in the morning, sing quickly, cut slices, and then they could go worship at the altar of youth baseball all weekend. I remember standing by the kitchen counter while my mother packed a cooler with string cheese, grapes, electrolyte packets, and enough deli meat to feed a team.
“Can we at least get a cake before we leave?” I asked.
